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Tara R. comments on 100 Words: Darkness

Tara R. — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 16:40:17 +0000

Nicely done. You've said so much in so few words.

Rufus T. FireFly comments on The Four Way Test of the things we Think, Say or Do

Rufus T. FireFly — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 16:16:35 +0000

After reviewing your test, I have nothing to say.

Barb comments on Follow up to Lost Mojo post

Barb — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 17:17:32 +0000

Very nice post- as someone who has been married for 25 years (and dated my hubby for 8 yrs. before getting married) I am here to tell you that marriage takes WORK.

It IS possible to reconnect after being to the point where you discuss divorce. Unfortunately these days people are not willing to take the time to work things out- marriages have become disposable.

Also, true intimacy does not equate to sex- and if you end up in a marriage for the long haul you will find this to be true.

There are also physical reasons for a decrease in desire as well- I am going through menopause now and could really care less whether or not hubby and I "do it" on a regular basis.

Does this mean I love my husband any less? NO! If anything- believe it or not we are closer than ever. I still enjoy sex- it just takes a bit more to spark that interest these days. As long as you and your mate are honest and talk it out those dry times in the long run are just a blip on the radar of your marriage.

Honestly look @ marriages that last 30, 40, 50 years- do you think sex is the mortar which has kept these people together? As you said it is easy to be judge & jury with an anonymous post- and it sounds like this reader missed your point.

lceel comments on Follow up to Lost Mojo post

lceel — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 15:26:37 +0000

You know how I end most of my posts with "Ndinombethe"? It means, literally, "As I go, I am wearing you."

When two people live what are essentially different lives, they become entirely different people than what they were at the beginning. I spend 4 to 6 waking hours a day with my wife. Out of 16 waking hours. 10 hours a day I am off leading a life separate from hers. I 'wear' different people. Different experiences.

4 to 6 hours a day is not really enough time to re-connect.

So marriage is hard. Not just for us. For anybody.

Anonymous comments on Lost mojo OR how often do married couples with kids have sex?

Anonymous — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 07:15:15 +0000

From what I can tell you are only in the marriage for security. (Security isn't always financial)

Life is too short. Read between the lines and get out now. Will you be happy 10 years from now looking back? Haven't you already made up your mind that you're not going to change anything? None of this is your fault is it?????

If you really had an attraction to your husband you wouldn't need to FIND time for sex. Look at all the thought and time you put into this post... Life change isn't easy but you obviously need it. Release him and yourself so you can both find real love. You listed every excuse not to have sex with your husband but the real one...

lceel comments on Our mini-Mes

lceel — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 14:34:10 +0000

Your girls are very pretty - and I LOVE that 'toothy grin'.

lceel comments on No worries OR why I may never find complete happiness on One Happy Island

lceel — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 03:48:41 +0000

No worries. My mantra. And now .. yours, too. xoxo

Coal Miner's Granddaughter comments on Wordless Wednesday: Dinner Choices

Coal Miner's Granddaughter — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 20:22:52 +0000

I love it! It's like in this house, "You either do it... or you do it." Hee hee!

Heidi comments on Wordless Wednesday: Dinner Choices

Heidi — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:23:19 +0000

I love this saying! I just may have to adopt it for my kids. I hate when they don't like what I cook and their response when I put their plate in front of them is "can't we go to McDonald's?" I just want to scream.

Barbara comments on 3 Books to read if you are lost, angry and/or trying to find perspective

Barbara — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 12:10:05 +0000

This is great, Mommycosm! Writing those titles down now - sigh - I don't read enough and my stack grows quickly. But I know you are right about these. I have only heard of the first one. Thanks!

For your consideration, what would you add to the discussion here?
http://redsparks.com/playpen/2010/01/25/time-out-preschool/#comments

I love HP, too, but I would not have read those books when I was in my 20s. Thank goodness my children introduced me to Rowling. Thank goodness we helped our children learn to love to read.